Booze Lie No. 4 - Alcohol Does Not Provide You With A Better Social Life
Booze loosens you up, there’s no denying that. It serves very well as a social lubricant and helps people engage with one another in a more open, relaxed fashion. This is all true – until we drink too much. As is the case with other myths about booze, the idea that alcohol provides people with an amazing social life starts out being semi-true but then morphs into something more questionable, is gradually more tricky to sustain and eventually, becomes a complete fallacy bearing nothing at all in common with real life.
As I grew older and my friends matured alongside me, got married and had children, the wild nights of getting completely smashed became more infrequent until I was left with the definite sense that I was the only one who still lusted after mental annihilation on a drinking session. My friends had turned sensible in their old age! Most of them would still enjoy a few drinks but not to the point of getting smashed, and they always seemed to know when to call it a night and call a cab (unlike me).
The effect this had on me was that I developed rather a liking for drinking alone. I didn’t enjoy the sensation of being judged, of having my boozing habits scrutinised by friends, of being told yet again that I had made a fool of myself and someone had been forced to cut their night short to take me home safely. And so I did what all heavy drinkers like to do; I stayed at home in the peace and comfort of my own drinking den, and I drank as much as I liked, watched what I wanted, listened to whatever music I wished to, and indulged unfettered in this unhealthy habit I had established over the course of my adult life.
Because the drinking sessions alone were less troublesome for me, they began to appeal more and more than going out with friends. I even started to buy wine in for when I came home – go out early with a friend, limit my intake of alcohol and then make my excuses so that I could retreat to my private booze palace, away from prying eyes. And drink.
Conversely, since I started to live alcohol-free, my social life is much better. Gone are the nervous butterflies at the start of an evening out, caused by the fear that something terrible might happen as a result of me drinking too much; gone are the sad, lonely nights in, indulging in my woes. In their place are more adventurous and exciting outings, exploring the unknown and meeting new people with confidence and something interesting to say. My friendships are deeper and more meaningful, and people like me more. I’m more reliable, less selfish and no longer a major liability on nights out.